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Second, anything that puts her on a pedestal also reeks of desperation. This includes over-use of compliments, ( I prefer to use none) especially on her beauty. Also, agreeing with everything she says and constant smiling and nodding also reeks of desperation. It says that you are treating her as if she has THE POWER TO MAKE YOU SO DAMN HAPPY- this THROWS ALL THE POWER IN HER COURT, and makes you seem INFERIOR.
After all, if you are not desperate, then why are you getting so excited and happy from her? Let HER smile instead. Giving her too much approval, too much attention, leaning in to her physically or metaphorically, all add up to d-e-s-p-e-r-a-t-i-o-n in her mind. Also, I should mention that acting MEAN does NOT SHOW that you are not desperate, it actually shows that you are indeed bitter and desperate. |
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So what is the REAL, natural “you”?
Well, it’s a lot closer to the way your ancestors behaved than the way most people today behave. Look, at a very fundamental level, we are no different than our ancestors of a million years ago. For over a million years, men behaved like MEN. Then suddenly, in the blink of an eye, men started to act very differently. Suddenly, men went from being tough hunters and from working the land hard, to becoming full time female ass kissers. It would have looked pretty ridiculous if the man of a million years ago came home with some freshly hunted meat, only to start being berated by his woman, and for him to tolerate the abuse or start trying to kiss up to her for her to behave. Actually, a woman would probably not have been so insane to even act that way in the first place. |
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The double standard is that there is this MYTH that somehow a woman’s affection is worth more than a man’s. As if men enjoyed women but women did not enjoy men. Why do I say this? Simple: Most men go OUT OF THEIR WAY to get a woman’s attention and affection, buying endless dinners, doing favors, giving compliments, endless respect, even if the woman is NOT interested! Or worse, even if the woman is MIStreating them.
Do women do this for men? Of course not. If you are a guy who grew up observing this phenomenon, it would be easy to get the wrong idea and think that women need to be persuaded, tricked, impressed, appeased, or bribed in order to be sexual with a man. |
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