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Why does all this happen?
Let me tell you a bit about a guy named Abraham Maslow.

He spoke about something called the “hierarchy of needs”. What that means is that as human beings, are needs work like a pyramid. At the bottom, are the foundation needs- food and shelter. Without these needs being fulfilled, we cannot even ACTIVATE the desire for any other needs.

But, once the need for food and shelter has been SATISFIED, we then AUTOMATICALLY activate the NEXT higher level need, such as sex. And once THAT need is fulfilled, we then automatically trigger the desire for the next higher need, such as social contact, prestige, etc. Well, when it comes to most attractive women, they already HAVE so many needs fulfilled, that they are SPOILED and so demand MORE.


Does that mean you have to be a jerk?

No.
Absolutely not.
Being a jerk is actually NOT the HIGHEST level of sexual attraction, because it shows a bit of insecurity.

But it is CRUCIAL to always show a woman you possess the characteristics of the man who has SURVIVED for over a million years.

This works on a very subconscious level. A very primal level and POWERFUL level.
At lunch yesterday I saw this really great looking classy girl. She was obviously having lunch with some co-workers, as was I. We made eye contact a few times and exchanged smiles. How does one go about approaching her? If she *separated from the pack* I could have maybe done something. Is this a lost cause for future encounters of this type?

A woman cannot HELP but feel attraction when you activate all the behaviors and cues that TRIGGER attraction!! And unless you display these cues, nothing else on earth will make one bit of difference.

PRIMAL sexual attraction is not stimulated by getting a woman to CONSCIOUSLY THINK about who she should be with. It's not activated by *good judgment*. So forget about trying to
appeal to a woman's sense of *good sexual judgment*.

When men try to appeal to her sense of good judgment, they are trying to appeal to something that does not exist. It's totally beyond all rational thought. The problem is that what nature gave for women as *a sense of good judgment in guys* was actually designed for an environment that no longer exists.

This doesn't mean that we shouldn't aspire to be *faithful,* only that a man's desire for novelty and new-ness often overrides our ability to stay with one person. (Note: Recent surveys have determined that female 'infidelity' is at least as frequent as men's.)


So why are you stepping out on your woman, R? I believe there are many possibilities, and all of them are valid in different situations:

- Your girlfriend is smart and sexy and giving, perhaps, but maybe she is also not CHALLENGING enough to you any more. Some women are too nice for their own good, and they are almost TOO accessible. If she isn't providing enough challenge to your nervous system, you may be reacting subconsciously by taking her for granted. Stepping out then doesn't have anything to do with comparing her to your woman on the side (of lesser quality.) It's says more about what you think about your current girlfriend.

 
They do this with extra-nice behavior, like smiling way more than they would with someone else, or by buying her fancy dinners, or by showing off in an effort to show that they are worthy.

Sometimes, guys give off the aura of being inferior by acting MEAN, which women can see right through as a device designed to overcompensate for low self-esteem.

And because attractive women are BOMBARDED by men, they must QUICKLY decide if a guy is worth their time- this is why FIRST IMPRESSIONS are so important. Attractive women feel sexual chemistry a man who EXUDES an aura of ABSOLUTE SUPERIORITY.

Some guys think this means to be a total jerk. Wrong. A jerk would show off a lot, and be cruel, and give off the message that he is actually insecure. Which is almost as bad as being too nice.

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In reality, if no one ever told you to do these things, and if you weren't brainwashed, you would probably treat women with a FUN mischievous attitude, since you would be feeling energetic and in control as a result of your own NATURAL horniness. This *sex* state of mind is NATURAL, a good thing, and keeps you in the right state of mind, keeping your behavior very masculine, AND IT TURNS WOMEN ON, it puts women into the sexual desire zone.

Get this: It's IMPOSSIBLE to be sexual (or horny) and scared at the same time.

Think about that.

Naturally, you would be horny (I said horny, NOT DESPERATE) around women, and that would be GOOD for attracting women. Instead, you have learned to SHORT-CIRCUIT your natural MALE hormones and masculinity that women are ATTRACTED to, and you actually start getting nervous, scared, etc. This PREVENTS you from clicking the switch in a woman that says *Here is a MALE, so sexual desire can go ON.*