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Just remember one thing:
Most women today have this notion given to them by our culture that somehow they have some “freebies” coming to them- i.e. that you should do a,b, c for them just because they are women, while you get nothing in the meantime. Don’t get angry when this happens. It’s not their fault. Society keeps telling them that they’re superior to men. What you should do is use a little humor to get the message across. So for example, if a woman tells you she expects to be taken to “only the best and the finest”, tell her that’s great- because you yourself make it a point to ENSURE that before you make ANY sort of commitment to a woman, you must find out if she is the best and the finest herself. See, women do it to us all the time. It’s only shocking when WE adopt the SAME standards… No matter how alien this concept seems, it’s the ONLY way to get respect. By insisting on only the best, you can then be a good guy, naturally. |
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| Are you tired of the same old routine first dates? Need a change from the dinner and a movie routine? Why not do something that gives you some insight into each other’s personality and is interesting? Not that I’m totally against dinner and a movie as a first date or even a tenth date. There is the benefit that you don’t have to think about what you’re going to say next for at least 90 minutes (even longer if it’s a Kevin Costner epic). I just think that a change needs to occur when I’ve seen all of the movies playing this month at the local megaplex. Another downside to dinner and a movie is that it can be inconvenient for those of us who work the nightshift. So I am offering the following ideas to inspire you to get out of the dating rut, whether it’s your first or tenth. | |
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I’d like to demonstrate this point with a a recent letter from a reader of my book:
“Hi Michael- I'm fascinated by women's tests. I know a woman is interested in me. She 'mentions' that other guys are interested in her. It's an attempt to see my reaction, and create a little jealousy. I don't believe she's being a bitch. She really wants THE MAN, and she's growing impatient. (That's my take on it anyhow.) What's the best way to reframe this kind of test, and yet leave her still thinking I might be interested in her? Is it a bad idea to try to let her know she has a chance with THE MAN? Andrew, Toronto” |
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This is why so many good guys who learn a lesson still find themselves experiencing the following phenomenon:
The guy is laid back and fun and cool in the beginning phase of a relationship, because the guy finally learned that it makes no sense to rush things, but then he falls for the woman's BAIT: She tells him she wants *more*- she wants him to be more *serious* with her, more *loving*, more *bonding*, and LESS *casual*. And as SOON as he actually RESPECTS her enough to bring the relationship to that *next level* and she feels SECURE that he is REALLY HERS, she starts to treat him like dirt. The guy cannot comprehend what is happening, he figures something must be wrong, so he tries to be ever more accommodating and kind to her, thinking she needs love and understanding. All the while he is being appreciated LESS AND LESS. Till it borders on PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE. I've received more emails on this phenomenon than any other single type of question. Guys fall for women's tricks all the time. And it's hard not to, as a guy, IF YOU DON'T KNOW BETTER. |